Leave My Boobs Alone! Struggle To Stop Breastfeeding

the struggle to stop breastfeeding

Breastfeeding has been the greatest joy that I have shared with my youngest daughter. I was so happy when I began nursing her 3 years ago in the hospital. It seemed to be so natural for the both of us. It was a completely different experience with my second daughter than it was with my first.

In a previous post I talked about the breastfeeding struggles I faced with my first born. I had a really difficult time nursing her because she really had no interest in nursing. I pumped for the first 6 months and it was a lot of work! It was really disappointing and I still regret not being able to nurse her.

The second time around I had a much different experience with breastfeeding. My little one got the hang of it right away and seemed to really enjoy it. In the hospital she wanted to nurse non-stop. I remember the nurse offering to take her for a little bit so I could get some rest. My nipples were so sore and cracked it was a difficult first few weeks.

My goal was to stop breastfeeding her after one year and then switch her to whole milk. That year came and went and I was still nursing her. I wanted to come to a stopping point I just wasn’t sure how I was going to do it. She loved nursing and I didn’t have the heart to take it from her. She used breastfeeding as her comfort. If I ever denied her boob should would scream and cry hysterically. I told myself that I would continue to nurse her until she turned 18 months.

After she turned 18 months there was still no end in sight. She wanted to nurse all the time even during the night. Because I stay home with her all day she knew that it was always there. I felt that it was going do be too difficult to stop breastfeeding her so I continued for another 6 months until she turned 2.

Once she turned 2 I wanted that to be the absolute cut off. No more bow bows (that’s what she calls it). I used to think that nursing a child past 2 years old was kind of gross and a little creepy. I really didn’t want to continue nursing anymore. It was becoming really annoying! She still wanted to nurse all the time and constantly had her hand in my bra. “Leave my boobs alone!”, I would tell her repeatedly!

There was no escaping it or her. As far as I know my boobs are not detachable and they go everywhere with me. They are not like a bottle or pacifier that I could simply throw way. She knew that they were there and so easily accessible and she wanted them all the time. She would often help her self when I wasn’t paying attention. It was becoming too much!

I tried to tell her many times that there was no more milk or that she is too big. At that age I don’t think she really understood or cared. She wanted bow bows. It was her comfort and she wasn’t willing to stop breastfeeding just yet. I started to consider some extreme measures like duct taping my boobs or having her stay with grandma for a week. None of which I had the heart to do.

Frustrated, I continued to breastfeed her until she was 2 and a half. By then all of my friends and family members had stopped breastfeeding their little ones. I was really starting to feel the pressure and judgement from others. I was honestly a bit embarrassed that I was still breastfeeding 2 and a half years later. By that point I was a closet nurser. I would never do it in public or around guests. I didn’t want anyone to know that I was still breastfeeding.

One month before her 3 Birthday something happened. I told her “no” and she accepted it. I said that “there’s no more milk” and I offered her a cup of milk or a snack instead. It was a miracle! This continued for a couple of weeks. She still asked for bow bows every now and then, especially when she was tired. I stayed consistent and always told her the same thing. Eventually she stopped asking all together. I noticed how much better she started sleeping through the night and how much more independent she was becoming.

Breastfeeding with her was a long road, but I am so glad I did it. I guess our timeline is not always their time line. Even though it might seem like there is no end in sight, there will eventually be a stopping point. With kids we sometimes just need to wait for there cue that they are ready for the next chapter. I’m glad that I didn’t force the change too quickly. Things sort of happened organically and I couldn’t be happier about it.

Did you have a hard time to stop breastfeeding your child? What worked for you? Leave a comment I would love to know that I am not alone!

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9 thoughts on “Leave My Boobs Alone! Struggle To Stop Breastfeeding”

  1. I have the same story as you ! Breastfeeding didn’t work out with the first but the second one loved it and I enjoy the bonding still. She is 2 years and 3 months old and I still nurse her in public because she gives me no choice! I really don’t know how I’ll get her to stop but I’m hoping she will do the same as yours and accept it on her own!

  2. I have the same story as you ! Breastfeeding didn’t work out with the first but the second one loved it and I enjoy the bonding still. She is 2 years and 3 months old and I still nurse her in public because she gives me no choice! I really don’t know how I’ll get her to stop but I’m hoping she will do the same as yours and accept it on her own!

  3. I breastfed my son until he was nearly two. I tried weaning him at 18 months and we both were not ready. At two, my husband had 10 days off straight with vacation and holidays. I was only nursing in the mornings at this point, so I just slept in. It was glorious. My son only wanted to nurse if he saw me. Plus, I have no problem extended breastfeeding, but I did not want him to say. “Mommy, may I please have some more milk?” Trouble was, he is very verbally advanced. On the way to his 2 year checkup, he asked, “Mommy, may I have some more sandwich please?” I knew it was the right time for him at that point and the transition was super easy. I think all kids are different and will wean when they are ready.

  4. Gosh with my son he’s already 1 and I’m not sure when it’s going to stop! My daughter naturally weaned at a year. With my son perhaps there’s this slight sadness about this may be the last time I breast feed. But I think it’s great you did what’s best for you!!

  5. I am only 5 months in my breastfeeding experience and as hard as it was in the first few weeks, I dread the day that I will have to wean him. I have to go back to work after 1 year so I won’t be as accessible but I think he is like your daughter in that he wants to be nursed all the time! I can imagine that the weaning process is going to be difficult for us both!

  6. Hey great work on carrying on for so long, there are so many benefits for your children! And the World Health Organisation recommends two years’ minimum. I stopped both times at 9 months because of a return to work with long hours and long commute and I wasn’t there enough. I was so sad to stop both times but immediately felt like more of my own human being from not being constantly on tap to feed all hours of the day and night! You did a great job and should be proud 🙂

  7. I am glad your found a way that both of you could accept. I have heard many stories of kids refusing to stop and also parents who wanted to continue while child was losing interest. Eventually, there will be a time and both of you will find it a good time. You have wonderful bonding memories now.

  8. It was not easy for us. I tried weaning my son at 18 months. Worse decision ever. We were both not ready. Once he was speaking in full sentences, like “Mommy, may I have more milk please?” It was time. For him that was around his 2 year well-check, but all kids are different. You’ve got this!

  9. Lol… I remember those days… My kids still have a fascination with my nipples and they’re 2 and 4. I hope it ends soon lol.

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